It’s all your fault

We all have blinds spots, topics we aren’t ready to unpack and challenges that continue to weigh us down. However our emotional states should be fleeting. Something we pass through with a peaceful presence knowing that it will all work out for our highest good allowing life to orchestrate the rest. But for life’s challenges we are continuing to relive, we are playing a part in this continued reality. I know, what a bummer. It’s our fault. Thoughts have weight and create our perspective. If we have a victims mindset acknowledging the negatives in our lives and choose to feel powerless, the universe affirms our powerless state by giving us more issues we don’t have the perspective to solve. That’s the remarkable thing about reality. Whatever energetic state we transmit into the universal field, is the same frequency we receive more of. Life without accountability makes you a liability for a faulty reality. Missing the mark of your desires.

The words you speak and the expectations you hold create the reality you see. Be selective about what you affirm. Yes, it feels good to vent and find comfort in others, but this reaffirm to the universe that struggle is your current state. Once we fully acknowledge the intricate workings of the energetic field we can reshape our choices to work in alignment with it instead of against ourselves. A simple reframing of words and expectations can look like

Instead of:

Everything has gone to shit, my life is a mess.

Maybe try:

Things that no longer serve me are falling away for better things to come.

Accountability takes trust. Trust that life will work out in the end. Trust that though we are not fully in control of the process or precise outcome, we do get what we resonant with. And if we can train our dominant frequency to feel more safe and worthy, we really can shift our whole reality.

Whether we are seeking more confidence, power, grace or wisdom all of these energies exist in us already. All we need to do is claim them. Positive affirmations like “everything is working out for me” can help us shift our perspective, but for profound lasting change we will need acknowledge and dig up the roots of our challenges. This process starts with accountability. Ownership for the over grown weeds and responsibility for the under nurtured soil. We all have the potential for greatness if we choose it.

It is worthy to note we cannot change others and can only change how we show up. So take accountability for the role you play in relationships as well. If a dynamic continues to unfold in a cyclic fashion, odds are you are allowing it to. Boundaries are different for each scenario and individual. Set boundaries that feel authentic to you. It is a beautiful thing to remain compassionate to others, but we must never allow this to impede our compassion for ourselves. You deserve to be treated exceptionally well. It took me a while to realize this too. Empaths are innately talented at being there for others. However, this earthly plan is a school where we incarnate to discover and develop new skills and energies. If giving is innate, perhaps try fortifying your boundaries for a change to establish some balance. Life is all about balance. As within so without. The outwardly love we give is only as powerful as the inward love we cultivate. Hold your self accountable for your relationships and change from within to see your desired relationships bloom outwardly.

*This may result in people leaving your life. Not everyone willfully accepts newly placed boundaries, but trust that better love is on its way. You are worth it.

So to recap resist the urge to be a narcissist or a victim and hold yourself accountable. Just be sure to frame it as acknowledging your inner power and not that you failed or did something wrong since ahame and guilt hold low frequencies. Every choice leads us down a new path of awareness and knowledge. We may think something is a misstep that leads us down a road of pain and trouble, but if we look closely we can always find lessons along the way that add to our cultivated power. Whether it be gratitude, humility, or tactics, there are gifts in our choices. And there is power in standing by them. Accountability puts you back in the drivers seat of your life. Putting you in control of where you go and what you allow. When you claim your power- you claim your reality.